Do your kids do chores around the house?. It sometimes feels like a never ending cycle of trying to get your kids to do their jobs, nagging constantly & then just giving up & doing it yourself. Is it really worth all the angst & anxiety caused by the constant arguments back & forth?. I think it is.
Just a bit of background on myself for my new readers, firstly thank you for stopping by, I love making new friends :). My name is Michelle & I am a SAHM to 8 year old boy/girl twins & also 3 year old twin girls. So to say I have my hands full is an understatement.
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As anyone who is part of a big family knows, the amount of housework that needs to be done just to keep abreast of everything is extraordinary. 2 loads of washing a day, many many dishes, daily vacuuming (thanks to children who spill more food on the floor than they get in their mouths!) mopping, ironing, making beds, cooking, school lunches & the list goes on.
If I did this without help I would be working around the clock (and wouldn’t get my daily dose of dysfunctional families thanks to Dr Phil or my all time favourite Dr Sandra Lee aka as Dr Pimple Popper).
In all seriousness though, even if I had just the one child or two or however many, I would still want them to do chores around the house. I don’t want my kids to grow up to be entitled little a***holes who think everything is given to them & they don’t have to work for it. Not on my watch sister.
Both my husband & I have done some truly crappy jobs before kids & when the kids were younger to help us try to get ahead.
We are in the age of entitlement, the world owes a favour to a lot of people, when in fact it does not. I sometimes think kids are hard wired to default to bad behaviour. Let’s face it, they can be selfish egocentric little creatures but that doesn’t mean we love them any less.
I don’t want my kids growing up ‘entitled’ & unappreciative of what they have. One of my kids has a tendency to think this way so to overcome that issue, I took him along to a weekly bbq that is ran by a beautiful charity to feed the homeless in the CBD. I wanted him to learn that unfortunately not everyone has a nice warm bed to sleep in every night, food to eat, somewhere to bathe or the safety of a roof over their head. He helped serve the food to people who came along to the bbq & I was hoping I was starting to get through to him, when one of the fellow volunteers sat him down with a huge bowl of lollies & candy canes which he happily snacked on until it was time to go home.
I had the privilege of meeting some truly lovely people that afternoon but sadly the lesson was lost on my son. The moral to that story is that some people who have the best of intentions & think they are helping, are actually hindering.
I spoke to my husband about this & we decided a reward chart was the way to go. Being highly strung, a worrier & an over thinker, I decided to do some research on what would work best.
In the past we had tried great big colourful charts with the kids favourite characters on them & also a pirate themed chart but the novelty soon wore off & we were back to where we started. The kids not doing their chores & me yelling at them in frustration.
I wanted to counteract this problem for the long term so I decided to create my own charts.
The first chart is called the ‘Chore List’ & is a list of relevant chores depending on the age of the child. That way there is no arguing or no ‘mum I can’t sweep the floor’ etc. If it’s on the list, they should be able to do it. (with the exception of children who may have an intellectual or physical disability).
My second tool is the the ‘Weekly Chore Chart’. This is a template that you can fill in with your child so they are involved in the process.
We use one chart for each child & we decide what the weekly chores will be & the kids write them up on the template whilst referring to the ‘Chore List’. We allocate a certain amount of points per Chore & when they reach a target, for example 50 points, they are rewarded.
I have found this method works so much better than any of the others we have tried in the past because we involve the kids in the process & they love filling out their forms.
The 3 year olds don’t quite understand it yet but they pick up on the excitement from the 8 year olds & it’s contagious.
As a thank you to my fantastic readers, I would like to provide you with my very own ‘Chore Chart & Chore List’.
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Please feel free to contact me if you have any questions etc but I’m hoping they will be a god send to you, like they have been to me.