As most of you know, I’m mummy to two sets of twins. 3 girls and 1 boy. Whilst my girls are only 3, 3 & 8, I’ve already been noticing some changes in my 8-year old daughter. She is outgrowing some of the things that she really used to love and she is slowly starting to mature. Within a blink of an eye she will be a teenager. I have been warned by several other parents that the teenage years are much harder to navigate than the toddlers and kids years so I know I have my work cut out for me. Especially because I am going to have two of my kids going through the same stages at the same time. With this in mind, I have been researching parenting teenagers and have come up with the following tips.
The chances are your teenage girl will be a bit of a fashionista. With all the trash TV these days, she can’t help but keep up with the Kardashians (I must admit that even though in public I detest the Kardashians I secretly love watching them on tv!!). For a mum, this is a big deal because it’s tough to connect when you don’t have things in common. Not to say you’re not a cool woman, but you might not be 21st-century cool. Like me you might still love 90’s music and start a lot of stories with ‘back in my day………’.
Every mother wants to bond with their teenage daughter without having to compromise. After all, they love fashion so you want to find a middle ground. If you’re looking for inspiration, you’ve come to the right place because here are my four tips.
Stereotypes aside, women love to shop because it’s always a fantastic day out. It’s even better when your daughter is by your side having an excellent time too. Don’t be afraid to go together because you think you’re not cool enough; it’s a load of BS. Mums can easily find stuff to do in stores that aren’t their cup of tea. Anyway, giving advice is as good as shopping for yourself. If you need to hit up a shop she won’t like, go your separate ways and meet up for a coffee or lunch thirty minutes later. The time apart will help you stay sane!
Renovate The Bedroom
The house always needs a coat of paint, so this time you should focus on her bedroom. She might not have any issues, but she’ll get on board once she hears your luxury interior designer plans. No teenage girl can resist the thought of a four-poster bed and cotton sheets. The key is to involve your daughter in the process. Not only is it the best way to connect, but it ensures the room has some of her personality and individuality. After all, her bedroom is her haven in the house. Of course, you’re paying which is why you need to sign off on everything yet that doesn’t mean she shouldn’t have a say.
Watch TV Together
Netflix and cable are two of the biggest influences in the noughties. Teens are glued to the screen and love shows such as RuPaul’s Drag Race and America’s Next Top Model. While mums may have concerns with the amount of TV the kids watch, it’s essential not to ban it completely. Sitting down together and enjoying a series is one of the best ways to relax and bond. Even if you don’t like it, it’s worth pretending for the fact that you’re in the same room enjoying quality time. I remember when I was in my twenties, my mum and I used to always ‘bond’ over TV, especially Tuesday nights!!.
Give Them Space
She’s a teenager, which means her friends are more important than anybody else unless she has a boyfriend. While going to the shops with her mum is nice, it’s not as fun as doing it with her BFFs. The last thing you want to do is smoother her, which is why it’s vital to give her some space. Let her do things with her besties and she’ll respect you forever. Just make sure you set boundaries. She might even plan a mother-daughter day out as a treat.
Finally, you can read up on the latest trends so you don’t come across as a dinosaur!.